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It can be hard to detect whether someone is manipulative upon first meeting them. Unfortunately, their selfish nature often goes unnoticed until youâve become too involved in their lives to simply cut and run. Once theyâve gotten close to you, these Machiavellian schemers will do anything it takes to keep you around, all for the sake of using you in one way or another. Perhaps the worst part of being stuck in a manipulative friendship is it makes you doubt the genuineness of others, which can mean constantly second-guessing other relationships.
If you have a âfriendâ who exhibits the following traits, you should try to cut them out of your life as soon as possible.
1. They play innocent
Manipulators have a way of playing around with the truth to portray themselves as the victim. I once had a âfriendâ who would regularly make me feel bad for not spotting him five bucks to buy a pack of cigarettesâeven though I detest smoking. Looking back on those days, I realize I was being used. He made me feel like a bad friend for not lending him money to support a disgusting habit, when in actuality he was the bad friend for even asking for the money in the first place.
2. They play dumb
Manipulative people will drain the energy of everyone around them by looking to their friends for help, only to go ahead and do whatever they want anyway. When their friends call them out on it, theyâll be ready with excuse after excuse. âItâs my life, Iâll do what I want,â or âLet me make my own mistakes.â Thatâs totally fine if thatâs how they choose to live, but they shouldnât solicit advice if they donât want to hear the truth. Itâs a waste of the other personâs time and energy, and can damage their confidence in the value of the advice they give.
3. They rationalize their behavior
Along with not taking their friendsâ advice, manipulative people make their negative behavior seem like the only option. They make it seem to you that they made the right decision, even though you know better from an objective point of view. They often seek to âwinâ arguments, rather than coming to a consensus with the other party. The implication here is that they werenât truly listening to what you had to say at all. They were just waiting for you to finish so they could offer a rebuttal, regardless of how sound your advice was.
4. They change the subject often
Since manipulative people only really care about themselves, they ultimately will steer conversation toward their own needs any chance they get. Theyâll do this especially when they know theyâre wrong about something but donât want to admit it. So, instead of validating the other personâs opinion, theyâll just change the subject to something innocuous or otherwise unrelated to the previous topic. This helps them avoid the truth in a roundabout way thatâs fairly unnoticeable to others.
5. They tell half-truths
Manipulative people tend to mold the truth to their advantage. Theyâll often hide information that they know will expose them as liars, acting as if this is somehow better than telling a straight-out lie. Manipulators approach all interactions as if theyâre in a court of law, where what they say can be used against them. By acting in this way, they can honestly say âI never said that.â Yes, you technically never did say that, but the way you skirted the truth wasnât exactly right.
6. They induce guilt
Along with claiming innocence, manipulative people also make others feel guilty. There may be times in relationships where youâll find you simply donât have the time or energy to deal with certain situations, and the manipulative person will make you feel like youâre ânot there for him.â They may even get you to put your own well-being on the back-burner so theyâll have somebody to complain to and seek advice from (advice which they may not heed, anyway).
7. They insult others
Manipulators are rude and abrasive by nature. All true friends can feel comfortable messing with each other by poking fun innocuously, but manipulative people go way overboard with the jabs and insults. They do this in social situations to inconspicuously undermine others and establish a sense of dominance. Manipulators never got over that high-school mentality, where it was âcoolâ to make fun of others and make them feel small by using nothing but their words.
8. They bully others
Manipulative people are bullies. This goes beyond insults and often involves alienation and the spreading of rumors. Again, this is childish behavior, but it is often exhibited by immature, manipulative adults. Actions such as ignoring certain people in a group, not letting them voice their opinions, or leaving them behind are some of the more âadultâ ways to bully. Manipulators will use these methods to establish dominance. In truth, these people are incredibly self-conscious and have low self-esteem, and will hurt anyone around them in order to feel better about themselves.
9. They minimize their behavior
Manipulators make it seem like their words and deeds are ânot that big a deal.â Ironically, most of the time itâs them who has made a big deal about things. That is, until they hear something they donât like and turn the tables on the other party. They clearly donât show any empathy for the people who have spent valuable time and energy trying to help them, and instead shift the blame onto everyone else. They know they have a problem, but they make it seem like itâs the world thatâs out to get them and not the other way around.
10. They blame others
As I said, manipulators shift blame constantly. They skate through life without taking any sort of responsibility for their actions. They either flat out donât admit they did anything wrong, or they have some explanation to make their actions sound reasonable given the circumstances. Manipulative people simply donât live by any code of ethics, and when it catches up with them, theyâll point the finger anywhere else except for at themselves.
Apple today announced a new editorial franchise called Apple Podcasts Spotlight, which aims to highlight rising podcast creators in the U.S. The editorial team at Apple will select new podcast creators to feature every month and then give them prominent screen real estate in the Apple Podcasts app and promote them across social media and elsewhere. This will allow creators to reach a wider audience, similar to how the App Store showcases a selection of recommended apps and games with large banners at the top of its screen.
The first Spotlight creator is Chelsea Devantez, who hosts the podcast Celebrity Book Club. On Fridays, Chelsea and special guests including Emily V. Gordon, Gabourey Sidibe, Ashley Nicole Black and Lydia Popovich will meet to discuss the memoirs of âbadass celebrity womxn,â as an announcement describes it.
The idea for the show began a year ago when Devantez was reading Jessica Simpsonâs memoir and started recapping it on Instagram. The reaction from her followers prompted her to expand the concept into a podcast.
Upcoming episodes will feature Oscar-nominated writer and producer Emily V. Gordon talking Drew Barrymoreâs âLittle Girl Lost;â actress Stephanie Beatriz discussing Celine Dionâs memoir âMy Story My Dream;â Leighton Meester on Carly Simonâs âBoys in the Trees;â and a special Valentineâs Day episode where Chelsea and TikTok star Rob Anderson read Burt Reynoldsâ and Loni Andersonâs competing divorce memoirs.
âApple Podcasts Spotlight helps listeners find some of the worldâs best shows by shining a light on creators with singular voices,â said Ben Cave, Global Head of Business for Apple Podcasts, in a statement about the launch. âChelsea Devantez has created a fun, vibrant space with Celebrity Book Club for listeners to gain new perspectives on the celebrities we thought we knew. We are delighted to recognize Chelsea and Celebrity Book Club as our first Spotlight selection and look forward to introducing creators like Chelsea to listeners each month,â he added.
Apple says future Spotlight creators will be announced monthly from across a range of podcast genres, formats and locations, and will often focus on independent and underrepresented voices. The content is previewed ahead of selection to ensure quality, but there are no specific requirements about the podcast size and reach.
In general, the new Spotlight creators will debut toward the front of the week, but the specific days are fluid to adapt to holidays, major cultural events and others. The next Spotlight selection, for example, will launch in mid-February.
The Spotlight creators will be featured at the top of the Browse tab of Apple Podcasts and will be promoted through the Apple Podcasts social media accounts. Some form of in-app featuring will continue throughout the entire month the creators are in the âspotlight.â
Apple says it will also collaborate with the featured creators on their own channels. Over time, youâll see promotion via additional Apple-operated channels including outdoor advertising in major U.S. metros.
The news of the new editorial program comes shortly after a report from The Information suggested Apple is working to expand its podcasts platform with the introduction of a podcast subscription service, threatening rivals like Spotify, SiriusXM and Amazon.
Though Apple Podcasts still leads the market, Spotify has been catching up by spending over $800 million on podcast companies, like Anchor, the Ringer, Gimlet Media, and more recently, podcast ad company Megaphone.
SiriusXM, meanwhile, bought podcast management and analytics platform Simplecast, ad tech platform AdsWizz, and podcast app Stitcher. Not to be left out, Amazon just a few weeks ago announced it was acquiring the podcast network Wondery.
Beyond helping the creators grow their audience, Apple says the larger goal with the program is to welcome new audiences to podcasts, in general.
Though podcasts are growing in popularity, the monthly podcast listener base is just 37% in the U.S., according to Edison Research. That means itâs nowhere near being an activity thatâs popular among a majority of the U.S. population at this time. Before Apple can effectively monetize podcasts as a subscription service, it needs to help get more people listening to podcasts on a regular basis.
Apple declined to say if the program would expand outside the U.S. at a later date.
As this concept has just been revealed in the US, hopes are that including our RCbbc blog may not be far off. If any of our Readers have any POV, we would luv them to add their Comments … (same as Statements: name/pseudonym/anon)
This newsletter covers an update on the National Redress Scheme (the Scheme). It provides a link to new video and easy read factsheet resources, an update on institutions and recent Scheme data.
The update contains material that could be confronting or distressing. Sometimes words or images can cause sadness or distress or trigger traumatic memories, particularly for people who have experienced past abuse or childhood trauma.
Support is available to help you if you need it. To find out more, go to www.nationalredress.gov.au/support. If you need immediate support, 24-hour telephone assistance is available through:
The Scheme is pleased to inform you that a new video designed to provide information to applicants on how to complete the Statutory Declaration when applying to the Scheme has been published.
Our hope is that the video, along with the previously published videos, âOverview of the National Redress Schemeâ, âApplying to the National Redress Schemeâ, and âDirect Personal Responseâ, will enhance awareness, engagement and support for all people who have experienced institutional child sexual abuse and are considering applying to the Scheme.
The Scheme has also published a factsheet for people applying to the National Redress Scheme in an âEasy Readâ format. The factsheet is designed to be more accessible for those applicants, and supporters, who are facing literacy, language and other barriers.
This will be followed by six theme-specific shorter factsheets to be published in early 2021.
Two additional Factsheets have been published: Information for support persons, which gives information for support persons who are assisting someone that is applying to the Scheme, and Legal Support, which gives information about the legal support services available to those applying to the Scheme.
The Scheme is continuously working with institutions that have been named in applications or identified by other means to encourage them to join and participate in the Scheme. To date the Commonwealth, all state and territory governments and 408 non-government institutions covering around 60,767 sites such as churches, schools, homes, charities and community groups across Australia are participating.
A total of 158 non-government institutions committed to join and finalise on-boarding by no later than 31 December 2020. Of these, 31 institutions will be declared in declaration 1, 2021 due to the department being unable to finalise their administrative requirements by the 31 December deadline.
This newsletter covers an update on the National Redress Scheme (the Scheme). It provides a list of accessible Redress Support Services for the Christmas period, a link to new video resources, an update on institutions and recent Scheme data.
The update contains material that could be confronting or distressing. Sometimes words or images can cause sadness or distress or trigger traumatic memories, particularly for people who have experienced past abuse or childhood trauma.
Redress Support Services available between Christmas and New Year
The Scheme recognises that the Christmas period can be a difficult time for some people. We would like to take this opportunity to advise you of the Redress Support Services availability throughout this period.
The Scheme is pleased to inform you that two videos designed to raise awareness and inform people of the Queensland Governmentâs participation in the National Redress Scheme have been completed and are now live.
The Scheme is continuously working with institutions that have been named in applications or identified by other means to encourage them to join and participate in the Scheme. To date the Commonwealth, all state and territory governments and 358 non-government institutions covering around 56,061 sites such as churches, schools, homes, charities and community groups across Australia are participating.
A total of 158 non-government institutions have committed to join and finalise on-boarding by no later than 31 December 2020.
For regular updates about the Department of Social Services and the Scheme, you can ‘like’ or ‘follow’ the Australian Families Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FamiliesInAustralia/
From âWhen British Royals Are Pedophiles, Itâs Called Peccadilloesâ (Frank Report 2019), James Saville fronts the article (as follows).
James Saville
Through reading of this article, attention is drawn again and again by the following second paragraph:
Watch the deck being reshuffled over and over again as the âeliteâ take care of their own.
Despite receiving intense amounts of counselling, therapies, medications and distractions: many CSA Victims continue to speak about the intensity of their CARC Session and-or their NRS Submission, ripple effects within marriages and families whoâre reluctant to admit that these (unkown) Abuses âever happenedâ (âunder their responsibilityâ), disputes and victim-blaming that may result when the CSA Victim has to retell/relive these past experiences to uninvolved relations âfor interest sakeâ, splits that may often be blamed on the CSA Victim for âbeing the needle in the haystackâ of their family separation.
many CSA Victims continue to speak about the intensity of their CARC Session and-or;
their NRS Submission;
ripple effects within marriages and families whoâre reluctant to admit that these (unkown) Abuses âever happenedâ (âunder their responsibilityâ);
common descriptions of young victims being so targeted, that they did not even know of what parts of the human anatomy were involved: âbefore I had ever even heard of sex or knew what anatomy was usedâ (Shivani, 5th paragraph, 2019);
patterns of predators should always be reported + shared with others in that community type (just as this RCbbc.blog). this allows for cautious advice to be shared with others (previous, existing + potential);
disputes and victim-blaming that may result when the CSA Victim has to retell/relive these past experiences to uninvolved relations âfor interest sakeâl;
an earlier victim of a known CSA Predator has gone from being victim, to re-enacting these same behaviours on a new victim. these actions should not occurr + Police should be contacted ASAP;
splits that may often be blamed on the CSA Victim for âbeing the needle in the haystackâ of their family separation;
Hike these are only some of the potential âhaystack needlesâ, they do describe some of the experiences that some of the BBC Students had experienced, witnessed or ignored during their enrolment. These articles were never meant to make accusations, only to provide another POV in the often controlled world of âfree media exposureâ. Comments are welcomed, yet relevant threats will now be reported through applicable QPS CPIU channels (previous OCA comments included). As overlapping instances of Qld Baptistâs SDBC have been cited, these warnings are also made via SDBC_RC.
Prince Charles with Sir James, suspected of being a long standing pedophile.
For there are many unruly men, empty talkers and mind-deluders, whose mouths must needs be stopped, men who are upsetting whole houses, teaching the things which ought not to be taught – for the sake of base gain. Titus 1:10-11
To demonstrate their duty and submission to their spiritual overseer and pastor David Koresh, many “Christians” were willing to be transformed into human torches in the town of Waco, Texas.
To demonstrate their obedience and duty to âObey them that have the rule over you,” many “Christians” submitted to their spiritual overseer and Pastor the Rev. Jim Jones, and “partook of the communion of death” in the jungles of Guyana, South America.
Introduction
Many Christians will be quick to express the âextremenessâ of the examples mentioned above in regards to people following their leaders, yet nevertheless, there is a lot more relevance to what has just been said than most of us care to recognize â relevancy that lands itself right at our own doorsteps.
When someone joins themselves to an organization or an institution called the âlocal church,â the times that will be spent there are very formative.
These formative times give ample opportunities for the âreligious leadersâ or âspiritual overseersâ to brainwash the people by planting fears that will literally keep a person in bondage to their particular brand of religious system for life, or keep a person from looking at anything else for fear of being deceived.
These formative years provide an abundant opportunity as well for the âchurch leadersâ to implant concepts which will actually keep the person from ever seeing the truth, even though the truth may be right before their eyes! If a particular doctrine or practice is continually being implanted into oneâs mind time after time, using vivid graphic illustrations, a handful of Scriptures, add a little fear, and of course, throw in some âawesome respect for church authoritiesâ and then, when that person reads plain Bible texts which tells them something different, they will not be able to clearly see what is directly in front of them. They will see the text through the filters that were put on their mind. They will not see the text as it really is.
Itâs absolutely amazing how many times a Scripture is read in church that completely contradicts one of their main teachings and no one ever comments about the contradiction.
There was a time at the beginning perhaps when they asked those hard questions, but when they were rebuked or ridiculed and shamed for asking questions that caused division, they learned not to question anymore. They learned to go along with the crowd.
The scales over the eyes have become so thick that everything, including the concept of God Himself, becomes gross darkness. But they do not know it is darkness on account of the fact that they have been seeing that way for quite some time now. The âleadersâ have locked them in to their own little system. To stray into a different area of thought is almost unthinkable for many of them.
Yea, rather the âleadersâ view it as tantamount to heresy!
I say without intending offense that such exclusiveness differs little from the two extreme examples mentioned above or any other authoritarian groups.
Victims of such brainwashing have lost their personal autonomy and in some cases are reduced to almost a zombie-like state! A person who goes to their church Sunday after Sunday, and hears basically the same underlying message repeatedly for a lifetime, has little hope of ever understanding TRUTH as it is revealed in all of the Scriptures.
But these people will refuse to learn anything different from what they have been indoctrinated in. Why is that? The reasons are simple but very important to be aware of and understand â BRAINWASHING and FEAR.
Brainwashing 101
Brainwashing:
1) any method of controlled systematic indoctrination, especially one based on repetition or confusion; 2) inducing a person to modify their beliefs, attitudes, or behavior by conditioning through various forms of pressure; 3) the ability to apply procedures or methods so as to effect a radical change in the ideas and beliefs of a person.
Because brainwashing is such an invasive form of influence, it requires the complete isolation and dependency of the subject, which is why you mostly hear of brainwashing occurring either in a religious system of some kind or at prison camps.
The agent (the brainwasher) must have complete control over the target. (the brainwashee) Sound familiar? Everything pertaining to the targets life depends on the will of the agent. (your spiritual overseer) Every step the agent takes will result in advancing his own self-centered agenda.
In the brainwashing process, the agent will systematically break down the target’s identity to the point that it doesn’t work anymore.
These brainwashers will hone in on a personâs weaknesses by first making their target comfortable, then get personal and confidential information to exploit the person later. Many âchurch leadersâ for example will project themselves with false humility; posing as spiritual men. They take the place of the personâs physical father and successfully use this emotional leverage for the deep seated need for approval in order to motivate and control them.
The goal is to make the adult followers as much like their own children as possible. When people accept this, then they accept human authority in their lives to the point where they are hopelessly dependent on the authority, as children are with their parents. One technique the âchurch leaderâ will use to obtain this type of parental control is to keep them off balance to foster dependency, making it hard for them to make their own decisions.
When this kind of cunning craftiness is plotted to deceive the followers into functioning like children, they become much more manageable, being easily influenced by false doctrines and other tricks of deception.
From here on in, the targets (a.k.a: âchurch membersâ) willingly give up their minds and their souls at the institutional church doors; allowing themselves to be induced with the godless spiritual narcotic of “duly authorized rule” slowly and deliberately being administered by their “church overseers and pastors.” Having now been deprived and numbed to any sense of right or wrong, they mindlessly, and without any shame or twinge of conscience, follow and obey everything they are told to do within those institutional walls.
Even if it means destroying your own family “for the higher good,” the higher good of course being in conformance to the wishes of your spiritual overseer and his local church.
This is what happens when we follow the ways and the teachings of men. How many times in the Scriptures have we been warned over, and over, and over again concerning man’s ways and traditions; taking heed to what we hear; testing and proving the spirits, etc. But unfortunately, it is very rare today to see a “Berean”.
Remember that religious brainwashing can be extraordinarily powerful and dangerous to anyone, but especially to those who do not have the ability to withstand the religious pressure. With this kind of pressure and these kinds of fear tactics, is it any wonder that some Christians donât think for themselves?
The best thing to do regarding your professing Christian relatives and friends is to realize that, while they are well-meaning in their beliefs, they have been brainwashed. Brainwashed people cannot see the Truth that is right before their eyes and they will deny facts that do not agree with their beliefs. Brainwashing causes a disconnect in the mind of the Christian believer between demonstrable reality and religious fantasy. Reality is filtered out in favor of the religious dogma/fantasy.
âThanks Brother. You’re a great testimony to the Church!”
Enter: Elizabeth Smart
Remember the abduction and brainwashing of Elizabeth Smart back in 2002? The scary similarities are astounding.
Just to briefly recap: âUnder orders from God,â two religious abductors, a husband and wife team, took (kidnapped) Elizabeth from her bedroom and held her captive for nine months before she was finally rescued.
The effect of these religious abductors cannot be ignored. Normally, when you try to ensnare someone to a belief system, it requires a dense network of fellow believers to indoctrinate you on their values and rituals, as well as exert social pressure. In Elizabeth Smartâs case, there were only two people, a man and his wife. Yet the forcefulness of their beliefs and tactics was enough to sway this young girl, just mature enough to comprehend spiritual ideas but not experienced enough to judge them skeptically.
For quite a number of months, the trio traveled around the western United States and at no time did Elizabeth attempt to escape, even when wandering through a grocery store by herself, the brainwashing had so well taken effect. Someone has said that âunder stress, a person can go into survival mode…..you suddenly start to identify with your captors. Its called traumatic bonding, and people actually come to see their abductors as their saviors.â Elizabeth Smartâs failure to take advantage of opportunities to escape or call for help are all symptomatic of someone who has been brainwashed.
She was once photographed three months after her abduction at a party where she could easily have raised alarms, but instead showed no signs of needing help. One witness who supposedly saw Elizabeth Smart at the party with her captors said she âstood silently behind her captor submissively, robed in what some have called a berka.Asked why the women wore these garments and were veiled, the captor reportedly said, “To protect them from the sins of the world.”
Another witness stated that she seemed like she was part of the family.
One Salt Lake City resident told reporters he provided shelter for Mitchell, his wife, and Elizabeth for several days and that the girl never expressed fear, tried to escape, call police or sought his help.
One day, when police finally noticed the trio on a street corner, they pulled Elizabeth aside by herself. When initially questioned by police, Elizabeth Smart identified herself as “Augustine” and seemingly attempted to frustrate the efforts of officers to help her.
According to a report from Newsweek, Elizabeth told police, “I know you think I’m that Elizabeth Smart girl who ran away, but I’m not.” The report goes on to say that “even as the police took her in a car, she denied her identity.” According to another report from Time, “Three times she told them her name was Augustine and she insisted to them that she was traveling with her parents.”
When the police insisted that she was Elizabeth Smart, she replied with a non-committal phrase: “Thou sayest.”
After finally admitting her identity, Elizabeth repeatedly asked police what would happen to her companions, Brian David Mitchell and Wanda Ilene Barzee. Police said she showed concern only for their welfare, not her own.
How did Mitchell, a self-proclaimed “prophet” and supposed messenger called by God, change this Salt Lake City teenager into his willing follower? How did he hold Elizabeth within a “world” of his own creation?
One method he employed was to control her environment, and through brainwashing, Mitchell controlled Elizabeth’s completely! He also sought to isolate her from her familiar support system of family and friends. After gaining this environmental control, Mitchell then effectively could filter all information flowing to Elizabeth.
She became dependent upon him to interpret everything, from where she can go and what she can do, to Bible passages and their meanings and even to the meaning of life. He created for her a new language, giving her a new name and identity, inculcating her into his religious belief system. The young girl had no outside frame of reference or accurate feedback from others to oppose the growing influence of this âmessenger from God.â
Step-by-step this control led to the undue influence witnessed by those interviewed. Elizabeth gradually seemed to assume a cult identity, which included the new name “Augustine.” She became robotic; believing and doing whatever the messenger from God said.
Once Mitchell had Elizabeth, he immediately began to drive home his belief system, laid out in a dense 27-page manifesto in which he declared himself âGodâs man.â He knew the right words to say because he was a Mormon and she was Mormon. This connection between them, a shared knowledge of religious doctrine and reference points, allowed the hold over her to become that much stronger.
Paul Martin, a mental-health counselor, said:
“For every Elizabeth Smart out there, I can tell you there are probably hundreds of thousands a year that don’t go reported. There are many that join groups like that, maybe not as bizarre but equally destructive……. These are serial killers of the soul. It’s a national tragedy.”
Geraldine Stahly, a psychology professor at California State University at San Bernardino said:
“People who spend long stretches of time with their captors often begin identifying with them. This is called the Stockholm Syndrome. She said: If they are entangled in a group for a considerable length of time, they actually begin to have distortion in their thinking; to take the side of their abductors and see all outsiders as a threat.”
Coming Home To Roost
Have you been or are you, like Elizabeth, in a situation where some church authority figure threatened your life or family, and then, like Elizabeth, had managed to placate this overwhelming authority figure into NOT harming you, thus forming a close emotional bond?
Like Elizabeth, have you been or are you “in awe” of this âduly authorized being from God?”
Like Elizabeth, have you been or has your real identity been stripped away layer by layer and replaced with an artificial construct imposed from without, thus transforming you into a âdumb sheep?â
And like Elizabeth, did you or do you feel “warmth for your awesome spiritual overseer” which removes any desire to escape from your captivity?
Reading about the brainwashing of this poor young girl, with point after point of similarity jumping out, you begin to understand better why so many members of local institutional churches are so blinded and in bondage to their religious systems. They have been brainwashed, and when confronted with solid Biblical evidence and facts that goes against their religious babble, it just washes off them as water off a duck’s back.
Remember. Elizabeth continued to deny to the police that she was Elizabeth, even when facing a photo of herself on a wanted poster!
That is the power of religious brainwashing.
If she could look straight into a photograph of herself and not see that it was her in the photo, how much more could a Baptist or Presbyterian or Catholic look into more obscure facts and not see them as well! In a five minute discussion between a real Christian and a typical local institutional church member, what chance does solid Scriptural evidence have going up against years and years of intense daily brainwashing?
Once again, 1 Corinthians 2:14 speaks volumes:
Now the natural man receives not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot know them, because they are spiritually judged.
However blinded they are to their own brainwashing, many people have no problem seeing and pointing out others who are thus inflicted. A Seventh Day Adventist for example can easily see the brainwashing that has taken hold of a Baptist, and vice versa. A Reformed individual can easily see the brainwashing that has taken hold of an Armenian or a Roman Catholic, and vice versa. But neither can see it in himself.
Gather together into a room one hundred church members from one hundred different denominations, and each one can see in the 99 others the brainwashing; but they can’t see it in themselves. They all marvel at how blinded the 99 others are to admitting new facts even in the face of mountains of scriptural evidence, yet think themselves not brainwashed, but rather “steadfast and true” when themselves, faced with such scriptural evidence against their own peculiar beliefs, ignore it and continue believing whatever tripe they specialize in. They not only ignore it, they actually feel they deserve some kind of medal for having been brain-dead and stubborn enough not to be affected by the clear teaching of Scripture.
In their church view, being closed minded and thick-headed is a virtue, not a vice. “Look at me, ma! I spent an hour with a Presbyterian and learned nothing! Praise God!â
The problem with many Christians in our day is their attitude toward the Bible. They will read their Bible, not expecting to be taught of God from it, but will get their teaching from their pastors, preachers, and commentaries, and then go to the Bible only expecting to find proof for what they have already been taught! (The sad part is that many of these religious cult leaders will actually put their stamp of approval on such passivity).
The problem begins when one comes across a passage of scripture which would seem to contradict what they have been taught. How many of us at times such as these reach for our commentaries or run back to our âpastorsâ or âeldersâ and ask them to explain the verse to us rather than calling out to God for help and wisdom. What do you think your âpastorâ will tell you?
You already know what answer they will give. Thatâs why you run to them!
This is NOT how it should be. Each Christian has a command from God to “Study to show yourself approved unto God, a workman that needs not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15.
Every Christian needs to ask themselves if they know for sure why they believe what they profess to believe, and to “be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.” 1 Peter 3:15
The fact that so many in our day accept a teaching or practice just because it comes from my church or âmy pastorâ is very troubling in light of the apostle Paul’s words:
For I know this, that after my departing shall grievous wolves enter in among you, not sparing the flock. Also of your own selves shall men arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away disciples after them. Therefore watch, and remember, that by the space of three years I ceased not to warn every one night and day with tears. Acts 20:29-31
The Spirit says clearly that some people will abandon the faith in later times; giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of demons. 1 timothy 4:1
The apostle Peter warns of the same:
“But there were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false teachers among you, who privily shall bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction. And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of.” 2 Peter 2:1-2
How many times has the Lord Himself warned over and again of false prophets and wolves in sheepâs clothing.
They all knew that apostasy would creep into the church very shortly after their departure. Even a rudimentary study of church history will show that this is exactly what took place. Christianity absorbed more and more from its surrounding cultures and religions until the pure stream of Truth was thoroughly polluted.
What is most troubling about this is the average Christianâs reluctance and ambivalence in asking questions about the issues of some of their teachings and practices. This satanic brainwashing and buffoonery has deceived, and IS deceiving millions of unknowing, often unthinking people into actually believing that:
– Obeying your Pastor is the same as obeying God!
– That âgoing to Churchâ is the highest form of worship and is commanded by God!
– That all of your spiritual leaders are clothed with divine authority!
– And that when it comes to a marital issue, a wife is to listen to and follow her Pastorâs counsel, rather than her own husband!
Indeed, the wolves have been placed in charge of the hen house, and are doing their best to keep the hens ignorant of the slaughter of Truth that is going on.
CONCLUSION
Once we have been programmed with a belief, be it true or false, we will act as if it is true! We then instinctively seek to collect facts to support that belief no matter how false it might be!
This is brainwashing in action; the same kind of brainwashing that inflicted Elizabeth Smart.
Brainwashing feeds off of human pride and a lust for control. Those in âpositions of church leadershipâ have literally commandeered what God gave through His Son, a simple, direct, unencumbered relationship with Him, and have fashioned unto themselves their idol, their golden calf, their own little kingdoms in which they can rule, control, and exercise dominion, unfettered!
But even as Isaiah cried, “Lord, who has believed our report?” (Isaiah 53:1; Romans 10:16), even so, who has believed us? Yes, who?
It is almost frightening to see how few professing Christians truly believe and understand whatâs going on, and how fewer yet will believe and obey the Scriptures! The brainwashing has taken full control.
Christ’s sheep have been brainwashed, corralled, and then mistreated by thieves and robbers for many, many centuries. The feelings, the thoughts, and the questionings of the average âChristian church memberâ today have been squelched by their authoritarian, law-mongering overseers.
Whenever the mind of a Christian is stirred and begins to see the false teachings and practices that are occurring in his church, silence and fear begin to take over and envelope him. He knows that if he speaks up, his life and the life of his family would be endangered by the very institution that claims to “care for them.” This is brainwashing at its best.
The words “disaffection“ and “heretic“ will keep him silent, for all of the members know of the result.
Many of these Christians will continue to just settle into their pews week after week, not even knowing whatâs really going on. Calm, quiet, and with their hollow, far-away look in their eyes, there they stay; totally brainwashed into believing that this is whatâs best for them; slothfully satisfied in their captivity, being captivated by their captors! Even the thought of having to “hunt for their own food” sounds too much like work. Many wouldn’t even know where to begin. But why leave? The âcaptors” have convinced them that THEIR CAPTIVITY IS THEIR FREEDOM!
This doping of the mind; this brainwashing is perhaps the most heartbreaking of all. Many just assemble upon the command of their âchurch leaderâ without having the slightest clue of what Christ and His Ecclesia is all about.
What a sad and pathetic state of affairs is todayâs local institutional churches. Indeed, as Paul Martin said earlier, the Elizabeth Smartâs are being multiplied today many times over. These people are serial killers of the soul.
When brainwashing gets to the place where âchurch leadersâ will literally turn wives against husbands and brethren against brethren, then it is time to speak loudly and clearly. When brainwashed believers are taught to actually hate another believer simply because they dared to challenge the pastor, or dared to expose a long standing cherished tradition, the cult and its leaders must be exposed.
When a church tyrant uses his anti-scriptural âofficeâ and âministerial dignityâ to get control of an individual’s mind and conscience, personal revolt is nearly impossible.
The poor sheep become scared of everything and everybody especially when they are cut off from asking or sharing the questions and difficulties in their heart.
Like it or not, this is the description of the brainwashing that is occurring in many churches today encompassing a wide spectrum of denominations.
It is a man-made, man-sustained system of indoctrination that is fueled by pride, greed, lust, power, money, and control; an indoctrination which has gone far, far âbeyond the things which are written.â
Many have been deeply scarred through these diabolical practices and misapplications of men. The brainwashers that occupy these pulpits are smart and clever, and they understand human nature. They know how to deceive and they know how to destroy. There are no words too strong to demonstrate this horrible deception used by this self-serving, hierarchical team of spiritual monsters!
Many need to heed the admonitions of Paul and James: “Neither give place to the Devil” Ephesians 4:27
âBe not deceived my beloved brethren.â James 1:16
Until the people’s eyes are opened and they finally come to realize and act upon the fact that there is a pompous, manipulative, and deceitful ruling class of âchurch leadersâ who will stop at nothing to advance their destructive agendas, they will be doomed to a lifetime of bondage and darkness.
But it will only be done by and through the aid of the Spirit of God Himself. Then and only then will you be convinced to STUDY and be READY to change. Then and only then will you have the mind to comprehend and the courage and bravery to stand up and say ENOUGH!
Without God’s Spirit; without the One of whom it is written, âHe shall guide you into Truth,â all the time in the world will not bring one to the knowledge of the Truth.
May you find the faith and courage to do what God would have you to do, because doing it will bring you the peace, joy, and freedom that Jesus died to provide.
â«ïž Neuroscientific and other research confirm that memory is not a single entity and that different kinds of memory are stored in different parts of the brain. â«ïžIn broad terms there are two types of memory. Explicit memory is conscious and can be expressed verbally, while implicit memory is largely unconscious and non-verbal. â«ïžExplicit memory requires focused attention to consolidate while implicit memory is encoded outside of awareness. â«ïžBoth explicit and implicit memory also include subcategories. For explicit memory, these include declarative (also called `semanticâ) and episodic (also called `autobiographicalâ or `narrativeâ) memory. â«ïžDeclarative memory (i.e. explicit memory type 1) is the only subcategory of memory that can be deliberately called up, i.e. consciously remembered. It conveys pieces of information to others and has been described as `coldâ for this reason (Levine, ibid: 15-16). â«ïžBy contrast, episodic (i.e. explicit memory type 2, also called `autobiographicalâ and `narrativeâ) memory can be described as `warmâ and textured (Levine, 2015: 16). Episodic memory `emerges somewhat spontaneouslyâ, and can be `infused with feeling tones and vitalityâ (Levine, ibid: 16-17). E.g. `I remember when I first saw the lakeâŠâ It is less conscious than the `shopping listâ type of declarative memories but `more consciousâŠthan implicit memoriesâ. It forms `a dynamic interface between the `rationalâ (explicit/declarative) and `irrationalâ (implicit/emotional) realmsâ (Levine, ibid: 16-17). â«ïžThe subcategories of implicit memory can be described as `emotionalâ and `proceduralâ. Emotional memory ( i.e. implicit memory type 1) puts us in touch with what we are feeling, helps us signal our feelings and needs to others, and is `experienced in the body as physical sensationsâ (Levine, 2015: 22; emphasis added). It may also be elicited by an environmental cue such as a smell, sight or sound.
â«ïžProcedural memories (i.e. implicit memory type 2.)`are the impulses, movements, and internal body sensations that guide us through the how to of our various actions, skills, attractions, and repulsionsâ (Levine, 2015: 25). They help us carry out tasks automatically. Procedural memories may be further subdivided into three groupings of learned motor actions, hardwired emergency responses, and response tendencies of approach or avoidance and attraction or repulsion. â«ïžEveryday use of the word `memoryâ (but also in psychology textbooks; Brand & McEwen, 2014) generally refers only to conscious, explicit memory which ignores the ongoing importance and various forms of implicit memories (Levine, 2015).
MEMORY, BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AND PROCESSES
â«ïžImplicit memory develops before explicit memory, as conscious recall depends on development of the hippocampus in the second year of life. â«ïžConscious (explicit) memory, conscious thought and verbalisation are privileged both by health professions and by society in general (Levine, 2015). â«ïžImplicit, pre-verbal memories do not `disappearâ when the hippocampus develops but are stored in different neural networks and can manifest across the life cycle. â«ïžMemory is not `a discrete phenomenon, a fixed construction, cemented permanently onto a stone foundationâ (Levine, 2015: 2). Rather it is complex and involves different types and subcategories which function in different ways. â«ïžMemory is impacted by the processes of encoding, consolidation, and retrieval. Encoding (or formation) describes the original neural laying down of memory. Consolidation (or retention) describes the stabilisation and storage of memory (a process involving the hippocampus) after encoding. Retrieval (or recall) describes the remembering, revival or restoration to consciousness of memory first encoded and then consolidated.
â«ïž`When memories are retrieved, they are susceptible to change, such that future retrievals call upon the changed informationâ (Rydberg, 2017:94). Research substantiates that `[m]emory is a reconstructive processâ, and that `no memory is a literal account, nor an exact replica, of an experience or eventâ (Goodman-Delahunty et al., 2017: 46).
TRAUMATIC MEMORY
`REMEMBERING BY RELIVINGâ: TRAUMA, REPETITION & BEHAVIOURAL REENACTMENT
â«ïžCurrent neuroscientific research confirms that trauma is often remembered through behavioural enactment (van der Kolk, ibid). Traumatised people are frequently unable to speak about their experiences and are `compelled to re-enact them, often remaining unaware of what their behaviour is sayingâ (Howell, 2005: 56-57).
â«ïžRemembering `in the form of physical sensations, automatic responses, and involuntary movementsâ (Ogden et al, 2006: 165) is characteristic of trauma: `Traumatic memories may also take the form of unconscious `acting-outâ behavioursâ (Levine, 2015: 8).
â«ïžThe need to resolve traumatic experience can fuel repetitive and compulsive actions and behaviours (`Unresolved experiences tend to haunt us until they can be finishedâ; van der Hart et al, 2006: 246). â«ïžThe relationship between repetitive, problematic behaviour and unresolved trauma needs to be recognised so that trauma survivors can be better supported towards recovery.
REMEMBERING & `FORGETTINGâ
â«ïžWhile our brains are wired to remember experiences important to survival, under some circumstances survival may be assisted by `forgettingâ (Levine, 2015; Freyd & Birrell, 2013; Silberg, 2013). â«ïžAs children depend on adult caregivers, `forgettingâ traumatic experiences can have survival value in preserving the attachment bond: `[F]orgetting abuse is a way to preserve the attachment relationship when the abuser is someone the victim is dependent onâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013: 58); `Disruptions in memory may be adaptive⊠if trauma and caregiving emanate from the same sourceâ (Silberg, 2013: 12).
â«ïžThe impacts of stress on the brain, the different neural networks in which memory is stored, the differences between conscious, explicit and unconscious, implicit memory, and the capacity of the mind to compartmentalise and/or detach from experience (`dissociateâ) help explain the phenomenon of `recoveredâ memory (i.e. delayed onset memory recall).
RECOVERED MEMORY (DELAYED ONSET MEMORY RECALL)
â«ïžThe term `recovered memoryâ describes sudden intrusion of memories which were previously unavailable: `[r]ecovered memories are those memories that have been forgotten for a period and then rememberedâ (Barlow et al, 2017: 322).
â«ïžResearch confirms that trauma can disrupt memory in numerous ways and at any one or more of its various stages (âIf recovered memory experiences appear counter-intuitive, this is in part due to misconceptions about trauma and memoryâ;Brewin, 2012:149). â«ïžDelayed recall of traumatic, implicit memory usually occurs spontaneously, without warning, triggered by a prompt or cue. In trauma, these recovered memory/ies were previously dissociated (i.e. unassimilated and unintegrated) because they were too overwhelming to process. â«ïžThe phenomenon of traumatic amnesia and subsequent delayed conscious recall of traumatic events is well documented in diverse populations (e.g. war veterans, Holocaust survivors, and survivors of natural disasters) as well as adult survivors of childhood trauma (van der Hart et al, 1999; Elliott, 1999). â«ïžLargely because of the founding of the so-called False Memory Syndrome Foundation in 1990 -on the premise that people were wrongly accused of sexual abuse on the basis of recovered memories -the term `false memoryâ has come to apply solely to the context of recovered memories of child sexual abuse rather than other contexts as well. â«ïžResearch establishes that recovered memories are no less likely to be reliable than explicit consciously recalled memories which were never forgotten (Barlow et al, 2017,ref. Chu et al, 1999; Williams, 1995; Dalenberg, 2006). â«ïžIn the current period there Is a contrast between the `fantasyâ or `sociocognitive modelâ (which proposes that recovered memories result from cultural/environmental influence and/or therapist suggestion) and `the trauma modelâ (which notes the intrusion of memories unable to be assimilated because the experiences were too overwhelming (Vissia, Giesen., et al. 2016). The `trauma modelâ contends that traumatic implicit memory/ies were dissociated or `split offâ from conscious memory and are recovered when they intrude. â«ïžMemories recovered in therapy represent a small proportion of the total recovered memory reports (Eliott, 1997; Wilsnack, Wonderlich, Kristjanson, Vogeltanz-Holm, & Wilsnack, 2002 cited in Dalenberg et al, 2012) Recovered memories tend to occur without warning and can certainly occur outside of psychotherapy or in its absence.
â«ïžStrong, recurrent, and/or disabling, traumatic memories, including delayed onset recall (recovered) memories, may lead the person to become conscious of what they signify. While this experience can be destabilising at first, it can subsequently enable integration of the previously split off (dissociated) memory and pave the way for trauma recovery.
`BETRAYAL BLINDNESSâ
â«ïžâBetrayal blindnessâ, or âunawareness and forgettingâ has survival value. It stems from the concept of `betrayal traumaâ, which assists understanding of how the `forgettingâ of early life abuse serves to preserve the attachment bond to caregivers on which children depend (Freyd, 1991) It also has wide application to a range of contexts: `Although there are various ways to remain blind to betrayal, perhaps the most effective way is to forget the event entirelyâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013: 58). â«ïžThe `survival strategyâ of betrayal blindness applies to relationships in which dependence of some kind fosters the need to preserve the relationship and can `trump the need to take protective actionâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2103, p.56) â«ïžâNot seeingâ, `not knowingâ and `not rememberingâ traumatic experience is not confined to children (`Adults are also prone to a kind of magical thinking âŠto gain a sense of control over overwhelming eventsâ (Chu, 2011: 34).
â«ïžWhile `forgettingâ the trauma of betrayal (i.e. conscious explicit absence of recall as distinct from implicit memory of traumatic experience) potentially assists survival it can also threaten health if the trauma is not resolved.
THE DYNAMICS OF DISCLOSURE
â«ïžThe process of disclosing traumatic memory (i.e. when able to be spoken about, which involves a different area of the brain and depends on a number of contingencies) `is highly dependent on the reactions of othersâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013: 126). â«ïž`{M]ost people who experience childhood sexual abuse do not disclose it until adulthood, and many may never tell at allâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013, p.123). â«ïžDisclosure is often not a single event, but rather a process affected by social context, issues of safety and the potential for adverse repercussions.
â«ïžâNondisclosure, delayed disclosure, and retraction are particularly likely in cases in which the perpetrator is close to the victimâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013, p.123).
THE RELIABILITY OF MEMORY AND THE ROLE OF SOCIAL CONTEXT
â«ïžDepending on the context and conditions, both remembering and `forgettingâ (i.e. in the explicit, conscious sense because `the body remembersâ [Rothschild, 2000] at an implicit level) can be healing and/or destructive â«ïžSocial contexts and power disparities, as well as neurological factors, affect the encoding, retrieval, and reliability of memory: `[s]ocial power not only dictates what is appropriate to say out loud, but even what it is appropriate to rememberâ (Barlow et al, 2017: 320). â«ïžâBoth internal and external processes operate to keep us unawareâ (Freyd & Birrell, 2013: 95); `To the extent that it is not safe to disclose externally, it is not safe to know, or disclose internally, to oneselfâ (ibid: 116).
â«ïžâContrary to the widespread myth that traumatic events are seldom if ever forgotten, much trauma is not remembered until something happens to bring it to mindâ (Brewin, 2012: 165). â«ïžCurrent research establishes that memory is not fixed and unchanging and that all memory -implicit and explicit -undergoes a degree of reconstruction. This does not mean that either is necessarily unreliable. â«ïžResearch has shown that recovered (implicit) memory can be as accurate as continuous i.e. (explicit, conscious) memory (Dalenberg et al. 2012): `Memories that are recovered â those that were forgotten and subsequently recalled-can often be corroborated and are no more likely to be confabulated than are continuous memoriesâ (Chu, 2011, p.80 citing Dalenberg, 1996; Kluft, 1995; Lewis, Yeager, Swiza, Pincus & Lewis, 1997); also Dalenberg et al, 2012). â«ïžNumerous legal cases in various parts of the world have demonstrated that recovered memories have been verified and corroborated by independent evidence, admissions of guilt by perpetrators, or findings of guilt by courts. https://blogs.brown.edu/recoveredmemory/case-archive/legal-cases/
â«ïžâThe cognitive processes that underlie everyday memory are the same processes that lead to errors in processing traumatic memoriesâŠLike any memory , the availability of memory for traumatic events depends on how it is assessedâ (Barlow, 2017: 323, referencing Sivers, 2002). â«ïžAssessment of the reliability of memory must take account of a range of factors. These include the social context of memory, the possibility of betrayal trauma, the survival value of (explicit, conscious) `forgettingâ, the impact of power disparities, and the centrality of emotional and physical safety around recall and disclosure.
To read the full paper The Memory of Truth and the Truth of Memory â Different Types of Memory and the Significance of Trauma; click here
To read our four summary Fact Sheets on Memory â Classification, Understanding Memory, Understanding Traumatic Memory, Recovered memory, click here
MIND CONTROL: SIX TELL-TALE SIGNS OF ABUSIVE CHURCH LEADERS
1. Idolatry – Create excessive, and sometimes blind, admiration and devotion to a person or group, and their beliefs.
2. There is a well developed, and often unstated system of rules and codes for behavior. Teaching God will approve of the members who follow the leader and are loyal to him is of utmost importance. God is not acting out of grace or mercy. God is a strict judge of justice who is working directly with and through the leaders who alone know what God really wants. The Mind Controller becomes their parent, and his followers are treated like children. They do not need to know everything, but just what the leaders think they need to know.
3. Almost total dependence on a leader, leaders, and the group, combined with cutting off most of the outside world; especially close friends and relatives.
4. Systematically using subtle techniques for changing the way people think, what they think, and keep existing memberâs thoughts and hearts loyal to the Mind Controller and his cause. The goal is to have the Mind Controller as the parent, and the adult subjects functioning as his children.
5. Teaching that the group has all the answers; it has everything good in life and there is nothing else.
6. Creating an environment of fear in leaving. Any deserters are punished by shunning, and are vilified and marginalized by ridicule before and/or after they leave. This creates a profoundly deep subconscious fear in the existing members to never leave, so this wonât happen to them. Anything outside of the group is inferior and of Satan. It is evil. There is no rule or doctrine more pure, or better, than the groupâs. Outside is failure and disaster.
There is a lust for power that burns deep inside a lot of men, (and some women). Most people suppress it, or are never in a position to use it. Some people are just not smart enough to figure out how to control others. So-called Christian leaders are not much different. They also still have natures that lusts for power and control.
Satan tried to tempt Jesus with this with his offer to make Him king over the entire earth. It is a temptation common to all humans.
When a leader has deep insecurities coupled with a licentious lust for control over others, layered thick with deep welling pride, then a wolf, an abusive and divisive leader, emerges. Like a vortex that begins swirling and sucking everything into themselves, they become incrementally worse and worse, sucking people inward and downward.
This was a common expected problem to deal with for Jesus. He warned his disciples right after the mother of James and John asked for a place of honor for her sons in the Kingdom. Jesus said, âYou know the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave â just like the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to give his life a ransom for many.â
Godly leaders need to lead by example, serving others. Peter was inspired by the Holy Spirit to write: âDo not lord it over those entrusted to you but rather be examples.â
John strongly rebuked Diotrephes for his wicked words and lengthy malicious speech and for casting others out of the church for unbiblical reasons.
The Bible warns against Satan disguising himself as an angel of light, and his servants as ministers of righteousness. An abusive control is deceptive and the doctrines of demons.
âWhat, you donât want any authority in your life?
Ahh, youâre a sinful rebel, rejecting accountability to your leader!â
People often just âput up with itâ, and allow themselves to be motivated by satanically inspired guilt and fear.
When the abusive authority ridicules others, marginalizes, and puts opponents who threaten their control out of their association, then followers just âput up with itâ. The more the followers âput up with itâ, the stronger the control becomes and it spirals inward into an increasingly abusive vortex of control. The abusive authority takes full advantage of the common trait most people have in wanting to appease leaders.
Christians are especially vulnerable to manipulation by perceived spiritual authority figures, and easily intimidated in large groups by their desire for living quiet and peaceful lives, and respect of authority.
Some clues to help tell if itâs a Mind Control environment:
Deception is heavily used with mind control. Once the victims pass through the gate of deception and they accept the way they were deceived as rational for âthe cause,â then they are set up to deceive others the same way. They become a slave to deception themselves by believing the end justifies the means. The lying isn’t looked upon as real lying, since the lying is done for a good purpose; for âthe causeâ or âthe truth.â
These people unwittingly become Mind Controllers themselves by straying from the truth and are exploited by the Master Mind Controller.
By buying into deceiving others, the followers become deceived themselves by not letting the truth control what they say. The expression, âjust trust Your Elders,â is used liberally in these assemblies.
Mind Controllers hone in on a personâs weaknesses by first making their target comfortable, then get personal and confidential information to exploit the person later. People are easy to control by a Mind Controller, especially after a vulnerable time of stress in their lives, making them easy targets. Defense mechanisms are broken down or overloaded, and people are easily controlled.
Many cult leaders project themselves with false humility; as spiritual men. They take the place of the personâs physical father and successfully use this emotional leverage for the deep seated need for approval in order to motivate and control them. The goal is to make the adult followers as much like their own children as possible. When people accept this, then they accept human authority in their lives to the point where they are hopelessly dependant on the authority, as children are with their parents. One technique used to obtain this type of parental control is to keep them off balance to foster dependency, making it hard for them to make their own decisions.
When cunning craftiness is plotted to deceive the followers into functioning like children, they become much more manageable, being easily influenced by false doctrines and other tricks of deception.
Mind Controllers use friendships and peers to leverage control over others. People tend to doubt themselves and defer to what the group says. This is why it is so important for a Mind Controller to gather to himself leaders who are loyal followers themselves! The Mind Controller strives to get all the bases covered first, so the only alternative is to readily accept his teachings and/or policies, no matter how fabricated they may be! That is why after an hour long message, many followers lose their frame of reference and accept what is being said to them without objection. At that point into the message, faces begin to relax into a blank neutral stare, enduring the repetitive, rhythmical, droning, and they accept in time, the truth, the truth of the Mind Controllerâs choosing.
Mind Controllers are shrewd manipulators and effective communicators. Followers are taught to follow orders without hesitation or question, like soldiers in the Army. The Truth becomes perfect and absolute. Any flaw pointed out is associated with that personâs flaw, not the Truth. Follow the Truth even if you donât understand it. The living and true God becomes smaller and smaller.
Information is tightly controlled. When the information is controlled, it restricts the ability to think critically and make sound judgments. This is done extensively. âGag ordersâ are routinely given, instructing followers not to talk to outsiders about assembly matters.
Fear of the outside world and all the bad things that will happen if one leaves, is firmly and methodically embedded in the mind of the followers by creating an âus vs. them.â The âthemâ or âother sideâ or the âoutsideâ is associated with Satan.
Phobias are created to systematically create a fear of deserting the Mind Controller. The thought they need the Mind Controller or group to grow spiritually, intellectually, and emotionally is drilled in.
Constant reinforcement and interaction with the group and/or Mind Controller and his fellow mind controllers is needed. The more personal time people can be persuaded to give up the better. People are ridiculed who want more âfamily timeâ or âpersonal time.â
The Mind Controller stress followers have to âkeep rankâ and âstick together.â There is a feeling of power from the single-mindedness.
Mind Controllers manipulate so the followers canât make decisions without going to the Mind Controller. They are being continually encouraged to not think independently or make their own decisions. They become dependent on the Mind Controller or his underlings as their parent. The more dependent they are, the more controlled they are. It would be a terrible thing to be accused of being âindependent.â
For many followers, personal problems are blown way out of proportion to keep the focus on the person being controlled, so they donât challenge the Mind Controller.
Mind Controllers exploit the natural tendency people have to obey authority. They exploit the fear people have of ridicule, rebuke, and losing relationships. This fear is a very deep subconscious fear that profoundly motivates them to defend what they are doing, and condemn others that do not obey the leaders.
Even the thought of people who left the assembly or disobeyed the mind controller, conjures up defenses in the minds of those controlled to discount or think poorly of those who have âgone to Satanâ and the evil outside world, outside of their assembly. Their mind is ensnared and captivated by fear to automatically think evil of anybody who leaves their group.
Getting away with public ridicule, sarcasm, and rebuking automatically lets the Mind Controller gain more control over an audience because the audience fears the same thing happening to them! Pointing people out publicly creates fear in others to behave so the Mind Controller wonât do this to them, so they want to be nice to the Mind Controller and get on his good side and please their parent. And they might tell on their friends to gain more favor.
Private and public slander creates fear in the followers by naturally not wanting the Mind Controller to do this to them. Creative slander can be used to create bitterness and walls against those who could help the followers. Slander against the Mind Controller is a very, very bad sin, and divisive. Slander against followers is not nearly as bad an offense, and even very acceptable if the leader is doing it.
Using guilt and fear to manipulate and control keeps the followers off balance. Confession of past wrongs is a powerful device for controlling emotion. But rarely is the confessed sin forgotten, but brought up later to manipulate.
People are not allowed to talk to each other about anything critical of the leader, doctrine or organization.
Mind Controllers often have a deep inferiority complex. What they require is attention and power. They learn to crave it, and develop a need for more and more power. Some cult leaders are in it for the personal power, not the money. They operate under the belief that people are too stupid and unspiritual to know what is best for them. They begin to believe their own propaganda.
Weâre all in denial. Weâd barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are solutions or deny feelings and needs that if dealt with would enhance our lives. Unfortunately, if youâre in denial, you wonât know it. Read on to learn how to recognize denial in its many forms.
Types and Degrees of Denial
When it comes to dependent behaviors, denial has been called the hallmark of addiction. Itâs true not only for drug (including alcohol) abusers, but also for their partners and family members. This axiom also applies to abuse and other types of addiction. We may use denial in varying degrees.
First degree: Denial that the problem, symptom, feeling or need exists.
Third degree: Admitting it, but denying the consequences.
Fourth degree: Unwilling to seek help for it.
Thus, denial doesnât always mean we donât see thereâs a problem, we might rationalize, excuse, or minimize its significance or effect upon us. Other types of denial are forgetting, outright lying or contradicting the facts due to self-deception. Deeper still, we may repress things that are too painful to remember or think about.
Reasons for Denial
Denial is a defense that helps us. There are many reasons we use denial, including avoidance of physical or emotional pain, fear, shame or conflict. Weâre actually wired to deny for survival. Itâs the first defense that we learn as a child. I thought it cute when my 4-year-old son vehemently denied having eaten any chocolate ice cream, while the evidence was smeared all over his mouth. He had lied out of self-preservation and the fear of being punished.
Difficult emotions
Denial is adaptive when it helps us cope with difficult emotions, such as in the initial stages of grief following the loss of a loved one, particularly if the separation or death is sudden. Denial allows our body-mind to adjust to the shock more gradually.
Itâs not adaptive when we deny warning signs of a treatable illness or problem out of fear. Many women delay getting mammograms or biopsies out of fear, even though early intervention leads to greater success in treating cancer. Applying the various degrees, above, we might deny that we have a lump; next rationalize that itâs probably a cyst; third, admit that it could be or actually is cancer, but deny that it could lead to death; or admit all of the above and still be unwilling to get treatment.
Inner conflict
Another major reason for denial is inner conflict. Children often repress memories of abuse not only due to their pain, but because theyâre dependent on their parents, love them, and are powerless to leave home. Young children idealize their parents. Itâs easier to forget, rationalize, or make excuses than accept the unthinkable reality that my mother or father (their entire world) is cruel or crazy. Instead, they blame themselves.
As adults, we deny the truth when it might mean weâd have to take action we donât want to. We might not look at how much debt weâve accumulated, because that would require us to lower our spending or standard of living, creating inner conflict.
A wife rationalizes facts that suggest her husband is cheating and supplies other explanations. Confronting the truth forces her to face not only the pain of betrayal, humiliation, and loss, but the possibility of divorce. An addicted parent might look the other way when his child is getting high, because heâd have to do something about his own marijuana habit.
Frequently, partners of addicts or abusers are on the âmerry-go-roundâ of denial. The Addicts and abuser can be loving and even responsible at times and promise to stop their drug use or abuse, but soon it returns breaking trust and promises. Once again apologies and promises are made and believed because the partner loves them, may deny his or her own needs and worth, and is afraid to end the relationship.
Familiarity
Another reason we deny problems is because theyâre familiar. We grew up with them and donât see that something is wrong. So if we were emotionally abused as a child,we wouldnât consider mistreatment by our spouse to be abuse. If we were molested, we might not notice or protect our child being harmed. This is first degree denial.
We might acknowledge that our spouse is verbally abusive, but minimize or rationalize. One woman told me that even though her husband was verbally abusive, she knew he loved her. Most victims of abuse experience third degree denial, meaning that they donât realize the detrimental impact the abuse is having on them â often leading to PTSD long after theyâve left the abuser. If they faced the truth, theyâd be more likely to seek help.
Shame and trauma
Shame is an extremely painful emotion. Most people, including myself for many years, donât realize how much shame drives their lives â even if they think their self-esteem is pretty good. Needs and feelings are often âshame-bondedâ in childhood if they were ignored or shamed. We may deny a shame-bonded feeling, such as fear or anger, minimize or rationalize it, or be unaware of how much itâs affecting us.
Denial of needs is a major reason people remain unhappy in relationships. They deny problems and deny that theyâre not getting their needs met. Theyâre not aware that thatâs the case. If they do, they might feel guilty and lack the courage to ask for what they need or know how to get their need met. Learning to identify and express our feelings and needs is a major part of recovery and is essential to well-being and enjoying satisfying relationships.
How to Know if Youâre in Denial
You might be wondering how to tell if youâre in denial. There are actually signs. Iâve mentioned some, including rationalization, making excuses, forgetting, and minimization. If youâre in a relationship with a drug user or drinker, does your partnerâs behavior affect his or her job, family and social obligations, or your relationship? Here are more. Do you:
Think about how you wish things would be in your relationship?
Wonder, âIf only, he (or she) would . . .â?
Doubt or dismiss your feelings?
Believe repeated broken assurances?
Conceal embarrassing aspects of your relationship?
Hope things will improve when something happens (e.g., a vacation, moving, or getting married)?
Make concessions and placate, hoping it will change someone else?
Feel resentful or used by your partner?
Spend years waiting for your relationship to improve or someone to change?
Walk on egg-shells, worry about your partnerâs whereabouts, or dread talking about problems?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, uncover how you may have been trained to deny and tips for what you can do. A professional therapist can assist your recovery by pointing out your defenses, questioning contradictions between your thoughts and reality, helping you identify denied feelings and needs, and supporting you in facing your fears and inner conflicts and in making changes.