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Many survivors experience similar impacts from the abuse. These can include anxiety, depression, suicidality, feelings of worthlessness, shame, anger and self-blame as well as struggles with trust, intimacy and other relationship problems, identity issues and addictions and clashes with authorities. Male survivors also face some unique impacts. Some of these arise from the expectations about men in our society.
We believe that your survival is testament to your resilience
We provide connections with others who have walked a similar path and focus on the way forward to recovery and growth.
SAMSNâs Eight-week Support Groups, led by male facilitators with professional training, have a trauma informed approach that prioritises your safety and focuses on recovery and healing.
SAMSNâs Monthly Meetings provide a forum for connections and conversations about recovery, and opportunities for learning from each other.
We recognise the additional issues for more marginalised groups of men
Men who are not from the dominant white, male culture face additional challenges of stereotyping in relation to their identity as men. This includes Aboriginal men, those from culturally diverse backgrounds, prisoners, men from rural and remote areas, men in the military, men with disabilities, men from the LGBTQI communities and older men. These men experience additional layers of discrimination, shame, isolation and have often have less access to support.
We are building a network of survivors who are finding their pathways to recovery & healing
Despite the impacts of the abuse and the additional societal challenges, boys and men find ways to survive and manage these many challenges. You are a survivor.
Some of the things we know can build a strong and healthy sense of self are:
Knowledge â getting some facts and information about abuse, about emotions, about impacts and services available
Safety â within yourself, safe in your key relationships, and a safe place
Self-acceptance â realization that the abuse doesnât define you, and accepting that others believe that too
Commonality â that you can find others who understand, knowing you are not alone
Control â you can make decisions, choices, and that things can change
Hope â for justice, a desire for change, finding a way to turn this into something that gives back
NOTES As pieces from SAMSN have been related to parts of my NRS – Apologies coping issues, I felt that some generalised parts of their site + Spoken Podcasts + hearing from more, in our growing community. Unsure how each of us will deal with âRecovery + Healingâ, each of us has different ways that we live. Even the final paragraph introduces some of the atypical parts of society, which are gradually growing larger/âmore acceptedâ. Stereotypes may have a new definition in 100 yrs; yet right now Aboriginal Indigenous, culturally diverse, disabled, LGBTQI & aged sectors are targeted. Alike child sexual abuse, this should stop – alongside sexism + so many of the other âismâs.
Now realising that I too have been grouped as part of the âbad applesâ, perhaps if a collective group with other BadApples could be joined-or-started! Through continuing amounts of surviving-victims coming forward, the âoccasionalâ is growing to wider audiences thereâll be less âpots calling kettles blackâ + more merging of a multi-levelled society.
Pot calling kettle black, Google images.
Now realising that I too have been grouped as one of the âbad applesâ, perhaps if a collective group with other BadApples could be joined-or-started! Through continuing amounts of surviving-victims coming forward, the âoccasionalâ is growing to wider audiences thereâll be less âpots calling kettles blackâ + more merging of a multi-levelled sharing. Probably how our nation appears in front of the camera!
âCognitive dissonanceâ, âmonopolisedâ, âexcludedâ, ânegative attitudeâ & âvictim-blamingâ were included in a recent therapy appt. Following which, another surviving-victim began having an early-stage discussion of what was involved in both finding out more + preparing for meets with knowmore! Karma, Murphyâs luck, or pieces of reality fitting together?
Not that RCbbc or SBDC_rc wishes to promote any 25th Anniversary of the ‘Crash Test Dummies‘ Band’s God Shuffled His Feet, their commonly used (satirical?) phrase is significant.
crash test dummy (duckduckgo 2022)
In what may have been one of this RoyalCommBBC’s founder’s initial memories; As a toddlerđś, who was still forming awareness of sounds & speech; an early, longterm memory had begun to be planted, by a supposedly ‘innocent & friendly, social encounter’ …
Crash Test Dummies, Band (duckduckgo 2022)
Reminders of what would develop years later, with the ‘Crash Test Dummies‘ use of the term; babies + toddlers were treated as virtual “first model cars“, that could be upgraded with “future children in your families” <mothers’ group>. Oh what joy, when this happens amongst ‘christian’ families. As proven by other NRS Submissions, more of a target may have been presumed amongst the nativity of “pure + innocent godsquad folk” … đ¤ˇđżââď¸đą
Crash Testing for DUMMIES (duckduckgo 2022)
Of recent interest/concern was that #GunViolence developing (uncontrollably) in America, is a practical version of much of there tension that has been avoided in ‘holy-christian-church⢒ environments. In Australia. Amongst the same ‘loving-caring-christian’ family, who’re yet to admit … perhaps if the above đźď¸ was republished as ‘Crash Parenting for DUMMIES’? Sales could be unexpectedly high. (losses of 1st born child excused … đ¤ˇđżââď¸?!)
#Neglect / #negligenttreatment is something that should never have happened. Particularly, when used as a âlearning toolâ for 1st borns. Only when later children are raised âbetterâ, by not exposing them do these âgodly folkâ change their practices: Nothing to see here â move on!
RETRIEVED via @treacl + @royalcommbbc tweets (May 2022).
Tags: NRS, RC, SDBC and tagged 1st borns, baptist, BBC, boys brigade, child sexual abuse, Church, church family, ecosystem, first borns, girls brigade, habitus, history, neglect, patterns, RC, redress, royal commission, SDBC, support, youth group
Guys – an online support group that SAMSN are running, in case you are interested. I got info on it through an email from another Counsellor (BlueKnot)! Absolutely no pressure to join, Itâs just in case itâs something youâre interested in⌠(6pm-8pm may be Daylight Savings time, which weâll check on before then)
Mon 21st Feb is in just over 1 & 1/2 wks away. This should be a wonderful chance for you guys! Youâre definitely not alone.
As long-lasting as the poor memories of our time at BBC may be, loss of positive ones can be just as striking. Chicri Maksoudâs passing is striking many of his Mathematics đ§Ž students with awe. Itâs moments like this, which can reprioritise our âmost important thingsâ/bucket lists âŚ
NERVOUSNESS As anxiety is setting in for some of those preparing to attend to the BBC/OCA commemoration service, here at RCbbc itâs understood that some followers may also be affected by the loss of Chicri Maksoud. As I will be attending the service at 4pm in College Hall, I will also bring a bundle of the Living Well booklets. Should any of you wish to collect some, Iâll be in seat H-34.
Beloved Brisbane Boysâ College teacher dies after long illness (Courier Mail)
Beloved Brisbane Boysâ College maths teacher Chicri Maksoud died yesterday after battling a long illness, the Toowong private schoolâs Old Collegians Association announced this afternoon.
Mr Maksoud at his desk early in his career.
Mr Maksoud was an honorary Old Collegian and taught at the school for nearly four decades, inspiring a love of maths and transforming its teaching.
Also a house master and co-curricular coach, he had a passion for coaching BBCâs rugby, cricket, athletics, and cross country programs and was known for an ability to intertwine maths and sports.
He routinely gave up his own time to tutor students, holding a weekly lunchtime mathematics club and running the middle school mathematics competitionsâŚ.
How much of âunfair smear-campaigns that will be initiated at breakneck speed to everyone the parents know, the lack of compassion, understanding and support from others, and the loneliness, confusion and grief to process after we sever ties.â ⌠#dysfunctional family? (1 of 2)
âŚunderstanding and support from others, and the loneliness, confusion and grief to process after we sever ties.â ⌠are experienced by those whoâve withdrawn from a #dysfunctional family? #nationalredress is approaching settlement for 1 CSA surviving-victim: âApologiesâ awaited. (2 of 2)
Although weâre each taught that toddlers-teenagers are to be treated with âpurety + innocenceâ, as âchildren of godâ, Institutions of #BaptistChurch, #BrisbaneBoysCollege + #BoysBrigade have had their past behaviours brought into question. -(twitter)- #DSS-#NRS will now research their inclusion, in preparation for assessment of these #ChildSexualAbuse impacts. Bless each of you.
Itâs great to let you all know that our RCbbc Team, has reached 3 1/2 thousand. With our Podcasts also being pieced together, adding in another media.