In the midnight of black-out curtains
I see that bright light again
though it’s slower this time
spreading across my face
like it wants me to see it
lingering to illumine
but this is not a tunnel to Heaven.
A man’s weight presses down on me
I won’t shift his presence for days
and cries drawn out will remain in my ears
whether fear, pain, horror
it’s clear they are mine
I sound like a child being hurt
with no way out.
That familiar pain in the PFC*
What did they do to me?
© 2018 archaeotrauma
Sixty years later my friend courageously gave evidence to the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse. Her life has been a battle to recover from the abuse that was perpetrated against her as a child. Its been an honour to hear and record her story. Now I just need to find a way so you can hear it too.
Research finds that child abuse harms mental and physical health in adulthood.
Child abuse, Signs of Hope & Study findings.
The study’s lead author, Abigail Millings of the University of Bristol, commented in a research summary that researchers sought to examine how caregiving plays out in families: “…how one relationship affects another relationship. We wanted to see how romantic relationships between parents might be associated with what kind of parents they are. Our work is the first to look at romantic caregiving and parenting styles at the same time.”
The research found – no surprise – that “a common skill set underpins caregiving across different types of relationships, and for both mothers and fathers. If you can do responsive caregiving, it seems that you can do it across different relationships.”
Millings added, ”It might be the case that practicing being sensitive and responsive — for example, by really listening and by really thinking about the other person’s perspective — to our partners will also help us to improve these skills with our kids.”